You've noticed that I have been silent for a long time, at least a long time compared to the normal every day-ish posts I normally would make, no? There is a reason for that. Actually, there is more than one reason for that. I'll see what I can do to list those reasons for you:
1. It's better to say nothing than it is to regret words you can't suck back in after they are said.
2. I feel no need to explain or justify my actions and choices to anyone. ANYONE.
3. I believe that if I am to be judged, it should be God's job to judge me...no one else's.
4. Real, unconditional love accepts, even if it doesn't agree.
5. If you don't talk to me more than once every couple of weeks, IF that, don't pretend to know me, and don't fool yourself into thinking I care what you think.
6. I realize that no matter what I say or how it comes out, it will be "discounted" because of past choices that I've made.
That being said, I will share with you the words of a dear friend of mine, who has been around for Volumes I, II, and now III of the Life and Times of Abby, and loves and accepts me whether she agrees with my decisions or not. Thanks, Ginou.
I
could tell you that this is awfully soon. I could ask you how long you
have known him. I could explain to you relationships on the rebound. I
could suggest you take some time for just Abby. But you wouldn't listen,
right? Nah, didn't think you would, neither would I. So, for the
moment, just tell him, if he hurts my friend, I am turning my dog loose
on him.
See? She knows me well. And I appreciate her and love her for that.
I believe that I am going to pick back up with blogging again. I believe I'm not going to address questions and I know that I am not going to explain myself, but I am going to write again, because writing is what I do. My life is worth documenting, if only in my eyes, and so document I will.
You are welcome, Abster, and thanks for quoting me and making me feel all important :0)
ReplyDeleteI have to be honest, I also had a sharp intake of breath when I saw your latest relationship update on Facebook. But then I thought "You know what? She is the only one who can judge that situation. What was said, how it was said, why they came to their decision..." That, and the fact that you are not a little girl, you are a grown woman.
If there is one motto I follow in this life, it is that it is better to try something and fall flat on your face while doing that, than not trying it and spend the rest of your life wondering what it would have been like.
That said, he hurts you, I will still let the dog loose on him. 23 pound Sheltie, more hair than dog. But he has the bite of a killer whale.
Ginou, you ARE important!!! You know, I would be shocked if someone *didn't* have a sharp intake of breath and if they *didn't* question my sanity.....but kudos to you for the way you handled it. Like you, I figure the worst thing that can happen is that I fall flat on my face (again) but if I don't try, I'll never know. My gut hasn't really led me astray...I wouldn't even call the last three years with PiePie a complete loss...so maybe it won't let me down this time, not even in 30 years, let alone 3.I have warned him about the dog. He said, "Yes, Ma'am!"
ReplyDeletePeople who judge have too much times on their hands. You deserve to be happy in the way YOU choose! Love ya!
ReplyDeleteHUGS girl. No judgment from me. I'll keep praying for you as I read your blog updates. I like what Ginou said to you, both in your post and her above comment. That's true friendship. ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks, ya'll. :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone. Nobody but Abby knows what's good for Abby. Nobody lives your life which means nobody has the right to judge what is or what is not good for you. I believe in intuition and doing what feels right...so kudos to you for living your life the way you please.
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